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Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents

As we get older, the reality becomes clear that one day our parents are the ones that will need taking care of. Your dad, who once looked as big as tree is starting to look frail, your mum gets confused easily and forgets where she's put things. It's heartbreaking, but it's something the vast majority of us will have to face.

Juggling everyday life can be difficult at the best of times, and the added emotional stress of taking care of an elderly parent or loved one, seeing them become ill or immobile can be devastating, for them as well as for you, your parents don't want to lose their strength or independence, won't want to be a burden on you, so what do you do? Do they live with you? Can you afford it? Do you have the ability to give them the care they need? Do you think about a care home? So many questions and worries will go through mind. So what do you do and where can you turn for help?

The first thing to do would be to talk to your parents, ask them what they want to do, they may have already made plans for their old age, they may want to stay in their own home for as long as possible and need some home care to be arranged, be interested in assisted living, which is a great option for those who don't like the idea of a care home, or they could even be in denial that they need help in the first place and you may need advice on how best to deal with a loved one who won't take the help that they clearly need.

The most important thing is to find an option that works for both of you, to enable them to live their golden years in comfort and safety and for you to have peace of mind that they are being looked after or for you to have the support and help of external nursing or care staff if the decision is that your parent or loved one will live with you.