Saying 'I love you' to your wife and kids all the time doesn't make you a good father. You must remember that actions speak louder than words. Therefore, you must be intentional in showing your love for your family. How? Here are some tips that will help you do just that.
Love your wife unconditionally – Kids feel loved and secure when they know that you love their mom without reservations. If you're divorced, treat your children's mom with respect even though it's not reciprocated.
Love them no matter what – This is different from permissiveness. Love your kids unconditionally despite their shortcomings. Kids who are secure in their father’s love behave properly compared to other kids.
Be there for your children – Make time for your children no matter how busy you are. And make every second you spend with them count – make memories with them.
Discipline with love – Children appreciate a love-drenched discipline. Be clear with your rules and be consistent in carrying out disciplinary actions accompanied with explanations.
Value education – Don’t just fuss about grades; get involved in accomplishing your children's homework and projects. Be a hands-on advocate of learning.
Teach your kids to take responsibility – Loving fathers make sure their children know how to be accountable for every action they make. They teach their kids to clean up if they get involved in a mess and move forward.
Teach your kids to love life – If we learn how to love this life and then give that blessing to our kids, they will be well prepared for satisfaction. Kids learn from us dads after all.
A man ought to perform different roles in order to have a successful marriage and family life. He must be a good leader and teacher apart from providing for and protecting family from harm.
As a provider - While being a good provider means having the ability to support a family financially, it involves other factors that contribute to the well-being of each family member. A man should be able to provide for the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental needs of his family.
As a protector - More than beating up anyone who insults your wife or daughter, this role means protecting her self-esteem and self-worth as well as your daughters'. Actually, you will need to do the same for your sons too. It can also mean protecting your way of life and guarding against any threats to the things that are valuable to your family.
As a leader - A man must take the lead in solving the problems the family is currently facing. As the head of the family, you must never whine about your family's situation. You must create a plan to lead your family towards the right direction. And in everything you do, you must give your best efforts.
As a teacher - What is your behavior teaching to your kids? Values are caught not taught. This means everything you say and do or don't say or don't do is observed and picked up by your children. Be a role model for your children, loved ones and community with your words and deeds. Set high standards against yourself.
Coming up with a unique fundraiser for your school can be difficult, especially
with so many other schools holding fundraisers, too. You need not lose hope! Why? Because you can turn an ordinary fundraiser into a special activity by simply adding a little bit of fun and
relevance into every part of it. Here are four fundraising ideas and tips to make your event stand out:
1. Art Exhibition – Putting on an art exhibition is one of the easiest, yet most overlooked ways through which schools can raise funds. Replicating the atmosphere of a ‘real’ art exhibition will not just showcase the best student drawings, paintings, sculptures and other creations, but give the fundraiser a sense of prestige. Make your school's art exhibition distinctive by presenting by grade level and theme. Don't restrict the display to only drawings and paintings either. Include crafts, needlework, poetry and other creative writing masterpieces of your students. Lastly, use fun ideas like creating a gallery program, highlighting some pieces with feature lighting, and playing soft music to create that real exhibition feeling.
2. Fun Run – Even though a race involves a competition, making it unique means injecting it with lots of fun! One example of this is getting participants to throw colour bombs or colour balloons at each other while racing to the finish line. Students and adults must wear white shirts so it shows the full extent of how much colour they got splattered with by the end of the race. This outdoor activity provides a great opportunity for students and their families to laugh, compete and bond while raising funds for your school. Watch the video below to see another variation of a fun run.
3. Car Wash – This idea has been done quite a few times, but why not make it more interactive for the students and car owners? Like having a canteen or lemonade stand? With this
you’ll raise extra money with car owners purchasing refreshments while they wait. Or how about getting students to make an initial smiley face from the suds on the car’s bonnet for a bit of fun?
Or while washing, how about getting the students to sing the school anthem? Most school grounds, or a central location in your community, will suit a car wash fundraiser. Don’t forget to bring
hose pipes, buckets, clean rags, soft cloth for polishing and car shampoo. And ensure someone plays some upbeat music to entertain your volunteers, supporters and other participants.
4. Recycling – This isn’t just a different method to raise money, but gives students the opportunity to campaign for a greener planet. Private residences and businesses will often have old mobile phones and empty ink cartridges laying around – soon to be tossed into a waste bin. So why not organise for students to collect these items, which can then be sold to recycle companies and scrap shops. Even broken pieces of gold and silver jewellery can be collected and sold as scrap metal. Make ‘saving the environment’ fun, too! Keep track of how many phones and cartridges are collected and recycled – then provide a reward for top collectors and let the school know how many pieces were saved from the landfill.
Don’t forget, whilst these unique and fun school fundraisers are primarily meant to benefit the student body; parents, business owners, political leaders and other members of the community should be encouraged to get involved. This enables you to not only achieve fundraising your goals in less time, but spreads the fun and positive message even further.
Children should be taught at an early age how to manage their money. An allowance is a good way to teach them responsibility as long as you are using it as a learning tool and not paying them for doing jobs they should already be doing as part of a family. As children get older, they can be paid for doing extra chores so they are better prepared for future employment and will understand the concept of being paid for doing a good job.
Save a lot - Open a bank account for something important in the future like school, a car, a home. Put some in a piggy bank for something they want in the near
future like a special item, trip or event.
Spend some - This is for things they want or need right now like snacks, clothes, fun stuff. When you take your child to a store, they can use some of their own money to buy small items so they aren't expecting you to come up with the money and they will appreciate their stuff more.
Give some - Have your child donate some money to a worthy cause or put in offering at church. This teaches them the value of helping others. Talk to your kids about credit cards and how damaging they can be if used irresponsibly. Be a good example when using your own credit cards and try to pay with cash or debit.
Helping children manage their money by making confident choices will help them build their esteem and they will have a much better chance at becoming a financially responsible adult.
Parents often hope that their children will learn and build strength or character from setbacks in life, but it may not be as simple if they have low self-esteem. After all junior high and high school is often filled with social rejection and ever-changing relationships among friends and others. If we stop to think on this for a bit, we find that being harassed by someone who is looking for conflict is one of the most uncomfortable things we can experience in school. Here are three steps parents can take in helping their pre-teens and teens to develop confidence and the resilience to overcome bullying.
Measuring Up. Often our self-esteem is shaped in part due to messages we grow up with. Parents who reflect on their child's upbringing may uncover some potential factors such as how parenting, family relationships, and cultural values and beliefs may have shaped their self-esteem. When children don't feel like they measure up to what is expected of them by themselves or others, it results in their adopting a negative perception of themselves from not being what they think they need or should be. Raising awareness of this can help pre-teens and teens begin to determine and distinguish what and how they value and measure their self-worth. It's important for parents to be mindful how they react, and try not overreact when their teen doesn't meet certain expectations, such as grade slipping. Many teens interpret their parent's reaction of disappointment as rejection. Parents sadly realize that their reaction to poor grades have been interpreted as: "you will only accept me if I get good grades in school".
Nowadays, kids tend to be addicted to playing video games, watching their favorite shows or surfing the net for hours. Because of this, they fail to be active and productive. A lot of time is wasted; and, their lives are wasted.
Engage them. Although many children dislike doing chores it is a good way to keep them distracted and help parents around the house. Also, doing chores will give them a sense of responsibility and keep them away from trouble and things they shouldn't be doing.
Have a compulsory play time. Kids joining a sport they enjoy is a great way to meet new people and get a good deal of exercise. It was teach kids a valuable lesson on how to be a team player and cooperate with other kids in a mannerly fashion.
Walk with them. If you have to grab something from a store nearby don't always take the car. Grab your kids and take them with you for a walk to the store. That is a great way to promote some movement in your kids if they don't do much. Alternatively, bribe them, if they want ice cream, they have to walk there and get it.
Feed them with healthy snacks. Eating healthy is very important, it can prevent many future diseases and injuries. Don't allow you kids to eat chips, candy, ice cream, etc. all day. Limit them to a limited serving at a certain time once in a while, every day is not good. Also, try mixing it up! Mix up variety of fruits in the mixer and add a scoop of ice cream in it, Or give them celery with melted chocolate, apples with peanut butter. There are so many options; you just have to take the time to find them.
Positive self-esteem is fundamental to a child's emotional and psychological well-being. It significantly affects their ability to form meaningful relationships, and how successful they are academically and, ultimately, in their chosen career.
Be consistent. Children thrive on stability and predictability. It allows them to feel safe and secure. Children also need firm boundaries, so they have a clear understanding of what they can and can't do. It's really important to ensure that you are consistent in enforcing those boundaries. Otherwise, children receive mixed messages, and this makes them feel uncertain and insecure.
Focus on the behavior and not on your child. Avoid labelling your child "good" or "bad", and focus instead on the behaviour that is in issue. If a child is regularly told that they are "naughty" or "bad", then they are likely to start behaving in accordance with that label. Conversely, labelling a child "good" is unlikely to produce the intended result, because the label is neither specific nor measurable (more on this below). Instead, focus on describing the behaviour, not the child. Be specific about what it is you are encouraging, or wishing to deter. It is also helpful to reassure your child that, irrespective of their behaviour, you will always love them unconditionally.
Treat your child with respect. The best way to encourage your child to treat their parents, and others, with respect, is for you to model that behaviour in your dealings with them. A child who is treated with respect is more likely to be respectful to others.
Validate your child's feelings and emotions. Children can become distraught about things that seem incredibly insignificant to us as adults. Nevertheless, it's important that we acknowledge the validity of our children's emotions, and provide them with comfort, reassurance, and guidance as to how to manage their "big feelings". This is essential if children are to ultimately learn how to self-regulate their own emotions.
Give your Child a Choice. Wherever possible, give your child a choice rather than dictating what they must do. This is far more empowering for a child, and affords them with a sense of responsibility for the decisions that they make, and their outcomes.
Raising children in today's society is no easy. With the technology available in this day and age, many children grow accustomed to elaborate and expensive sources of entertainment. But it doesn't have to be this way.
Search for discounts. Couponing used to be a way to save money on groceries for the frugal household. Today, though, many companies are offering discounts online and in stores.
Video arcades, entertainment centers, aquariums and zoos are just a few examples of local attractions that offer deals and discounts. Check online discount sites regularly for any deals that may
Join a local playgroup. The internet has done wonders for connecting many different people, including those who would not normally meet. Many towns and cities host local parent groups that offer weekly or monthly meet-ups for parents and their children. Often, these groups meet in local parks playgrounds or child friendly restaurants, giving the parents a chance to socialize with adults, and the children the opportunity to meet other kids their age. Plus, the bigger the group, the better the chance of receiving a discount on children's entertainment. Children love playing and what better resource than other moms and dads who know the area.
Purchase season passes. Individual tickets/admission prices can really start to add up when a family visits an attraction multiple times a month or even year. If you find yourself taking your children to the same parks, pools, or events, consider purchasing a season pass. Many season passes allow an entire family to attend an event, and the price you would normally pay for each individual at each visit quickly surpasses the price of the season pass. Check online and via telephone for season passes to the places you and your children love.
Volunteer. Children do not always need expensive gadgets and luxurious vacations to stay entertained. Instead, look to doing some good in your neighborhood while having fun with your children. Animal shelters and local parks and beaches are always looking for volunteers. Just make sure you call ahead to see if the organization welcomes children as volunteers. You will not only enjoy the time spent with your child, but you will be making a positive impact on your child. Who said children's entertainment must always involve spending money?
Check for rewards programs. Many families have a favorite spot for child-friendly entertainment. Much like a season pass, many of these businesses offer a loyalty & rewards program for faithful patrons. Always inquire as to the availability of such programs at your next visit. Examples of such rewards programs include stamping a card for every visit or purchase. After so many visits or purchases, the card may be redeemed for a free visit. The idea is to reward a customer and his family for their loyalty.
Reading comprehension is made up of a three-step process, each one leading to the other. The first step is being able to identify the facts and ideas in the things that we read. After recognizing ideas and facts, the second step is understanding them. The third step is critical thinking. Despite the word "critical," critical thinking doesn't mean the ability to point out flaws or mistakes. What it really means is the ability to assess the ideas being presented, whether they are reasonable or not.
Staying positive is really hard if you're surrounded with negative happenings and negative people everyday. All of your energy could be drained and your focus misaligned if you keep encountering people who always complain and talk negatively about themselves and about their lives. Do you find yourself in the same dilemma? Here are some things you can do to stay positive all through out the year or for the rest of your life.
Know that life is a series of choices and not chances. You always have a choice in everything that comes your way. Choose what not to listen, where not to go and what to do in order to keep your positivity and focus. If you want to get full pay and buy all the things you need, choose to go to work and do your best to complete your tasks. List down the things you want and you will benefit from. Then, take note of the choices you have to make in order to acquire them.
Claim the position where you want to be and gain control over yourself. You cannot control other people but you can control your behavior, feelings and thoughts. You can
decide what to feel and what to do for the entire day. So, you must tell yourself and believe that you will achieve great things as soon as you wake up in the morning. It's like setting up
yourself for success.
Be aware of things that can pull you into negativity. Is it your fears or your past? Is it a person you dislike? Whatever it is, decide not to discuss it unless you're ready to talk about it or say something about it that feels good. For example, stay away from arguments or people who complain a lot because you need not hear them.
Drum a power phrase into your head. This is like a mantra that you recite to yourself over and over so that you can stay focused, overcome negativity and deliver positive results. No one else can push you to stay positive but yourself.
Be ready for the release. Are there tasks or people who challenge your positive outlook in life? Decide to release them. They can drain you and pull you down when you're caught off guard. Accept that nothing and no one stays forever. Choose to release those that won't help you have an improved life.
Do you have a teenager who is battling against criticism? As a parent, it is important that you support your child as every body else is questioning his credibility or style. However, you cannot always stay with your child and defend her whenever she's criticized. Here are some insights you can share to her in order to survive criticisms and make the most out of them.
1. Filter - Don't listen to all the criticisms that come your way. Learn to filter them and don't fall into the trap of the people who simply wants to destroy you because of envy or other reasons. Identify legitimate feedback which have bases. You can use them to improve yourself in the long run.
2. Don't take it personally - Separate yourself from the criticism. It as a reaction towards an action, situation or an event that went badly or you did wrong. Don't let criticism make you feel down and low with self-pity. As I mentioned earlier, use legitimate feedback for improvement of your craft and of yourself.
3. Be slow to react - Criticisms will definitely stir negative emotions in you. One of these emotions is anger. If a comment, feedback or criticism angered you, step back and take a deep breath. Be mindful not to say anything out of your anger as this might backfire.
4. Show acceptance - If someone approached you to personally deliver a criticism, accept it and thank the person for showing concern. Re-framing even a negative criticism into something positive makes you look professional and open-minded.
5. Life goes on - Don't dwell on these criticisms and just keep moving forward. Improve what you have to improve and believe that you can do everything correctly. Be prepared to be criticized even when you do the right things because that's all part of life.
Last week, I had dinner with my family at my folks' house up north. Over dinner, we had a discussion about my sister's decision to get married. She's just twenty. Although she's already in the legal age, ma and pa believe that she's still young. And so, they want her to rethink her decision about marriage and her current relationship as well. After the main course, the topic of our small talk changed to the qualities of a good husband. The short list below is the result of our discussion.
1) A good husband is a good listener. Your marriage will be successful if the man and woman both know how to listen. This is a big challenge for men as they're generally productive-oriented and not relational. A man must be ready to listen to his wife even though he's unable to solve the problem at hand.
2) A good husband is faithful. A man who follows through with his commitments to his wife is faithful. A man who is faithful and loyal to his wife is always honest and he always updates his wife about his whereabouts, plans, and decisions in his life.
3) A good husband is sensitive. Sensitivity to your wife's needs is important. It opens doors of communication and intimacy between the man and the wife.
4) A good husband is handy. A husband is expected to take action when a problem arises at home. Can you replace a busted light bulb? Can you do basic plumbing? Small home repairs don't escape the notice of a good and handy man in the house.
5) A good husband is a good provider. This is more than just making money and providing for all the family's needs. It is the attitude of providing help and support to your partner in whatever she does. Yes, that means helping in the household chores too.
6) A good husband is humble. A man who is humble enough to admit his mistakes and makes up for them is truly admirable.
7) A good husband is adaptable. Your relationship as husband and wife is expected to change through time. Fators like time constraints, needs of children and financial obligations can make such relationship very difficult. The husband is the head of the family; hence, he must be tough and dependable at all times even though tides of challenges flood your lives.
Do you hear your child say "I hate myself!" or "I hate my body!"? While this is something that you should be alarmed about, try not to be overwhelmed by such statement. Rather, research about its causes and be determined to help your child to snap out of it.
Absence of self-control - Kids usually commit unbearable acts when they lack self-control. As a result, they begin hating themselves when loved ones notice how bad their actions were. To keep your child from acting on impulse, teach him the importance of focusing and relaxing in any situation. Instruct him to take deep breaths and meditate before carrying out his thoughts. Teach him also to imagine the possible results of his actions.
Guilt - Kids can feel guilty easily without anyone telling them to feel that way. They can feel guilty about their family's financial problems because they're unable to help solve or pay the bills and debts. Moreover, kids feel most guilty when they make mistakes that can tarnish the family's reputation. In this case, parents and primary caregivers can help kids feel appeased by assuring them that it's normal to make mistakes.
Fear - Kids dislike being humiliated. They can easily feel humiliated when they are punished for their misdeeds in front of other people. In the event that they commit another misdeed, they lie to cover up their mistakes for the fear of being humiliated. Hence, they hate themselves for their incapabilities, misdeeds and for lying about them.
Abuse - Kids who are emotionally, physically and verbally abused hate themselves for being unable to stand up against such attacks to their being. They hate themselves for being weak. When trying to discipline your child, refrain from hitting them physically or insulting them with harsh words.
In most homes, women usually carry a huge share of childcare and household chores. While some modern dads do help out with specific tasks at homes, moms still bear the overall responsibility of making the entire house run smoothly. Moreover, moms are also tasked to bring added income to the family.
According to psychologist Leslie Maxson, two-career families work best when all members pitches in. Maxson believes in the importance of allocating household tasks based on hours worked outside the home. This is especially true now that hiring childcare or household help costs a lot by the hour.
Even the youngest members of the family can be encouraged to share with the responsibilities at home. Independence can be instilled in their young hearts and minds as early as now. They can accomplish simple tasks that natch their ages and skills. Such tasks are helpful in building up their self-esteem.
Older children can be a huge help to the family. To get them into the habit of helping out at home, organize the tasks which you want to be accomplished by them. List down these activities and provide a reasonable deadline or time frame.
If it takes you forever to designate and finish all the household chores, consider effective ways to simplify their execution. For example, go for easy-to-prepare meals for the family instead of cooking dishes that take hours to prepare.
Dads need to be intentional in helping out at home. Should you find yourself taking a lot of time finishing a couple of chores, search for ways on how you can speed up on the job. Don't just give up and leave the unfinished chores to your wife. Doing so will not help you have improved skills. Moreover, your household will be more chaotic than ever.
Dental extraction is one of the most common procedures in dentistry today. It involves the removal of a tooth with the use of an elevator to lift the tooth and dental forceps to extract. Nowadays, an X-ray is taken prior to extraction to plan the best way to remove the tooth.
There are at least four reasons why some teeth should be extracted. They are:
1. Tooth decay or infection so severe that it has reached the pulp causing severe pain.
2. A wisdom tooth that has not fully erupted because of blockage from other teeth.
3. Presence of a baby tooth that blocks the formation of permanent teeth.
4. When braces are required, sometimes teeth need to be extracted to make room for the teeth being moved into place.
There are two types of extractions. They are:
1) Simple - This is performed on teeth that are visible in the mouth. Local anesthesia and forceps are used.
2) Surgical - This is performed on teeth that are invisible or in an awkward position. In this procedure, the dentist creates an incision in the gums in order to drill out the tooth to be extracted.
Bleeding is to be expected after the procedure. Discomfort and pain will be experienced after the local anesthesia wears off. Other aftereffects of extraction are summarized in the infographic below by the Beacon Cove Dental Group.
Infection can occur if the right treatment and care are overlooked post extraction. Observe the best practices below to ensure total healing after the procedure.
1) Do not brush your teeth within 8 hours. After this, avoid the extraction site when you’re brushing other teeth.
2) Control further bleeding by adding pressure to the extraction site with the use of a clean gauze.
3) Gargle with an antiseptic mouthwash a day after the extraction.
4) Refrain from spitting or sucking through a straw. This will cause bleeding.
5) If you’re a smoker, do not smoke for at least a day, preferably for three days after treatment.
Tooth extraction need not be a risky procedure. Contact a credible dental care provider if you need to undergo this procedure.