Self-motivation is a trait that is often underrated. It can have a huge impact on how well your child does in school. Children must have the ability to motivate themselves, a vital skill if they
are to succeed. It’s true that self-motivation can only come from within, but there are ways you can help your child nurture it, giving them an advantage that will pay off in later life. Here are
eight ways you can help.
Encourage positivity - Focusing on solutions to problems rather than dwelling on setbacks, combined with having a positive outlook on life. This will encourage your child to adopt the same approach.
Encourage persistence - Reward effort rather than just success. You will help your child to develop the resilience they’ll need to face failure and to keep trying until they do succeed.
Address failure appropriately - Teach your child to accept that sometimes they will fail. Showing them how to lose or win gracefully, will give them the ability to deal with, and move on from, setbacks later in life.
Encourage your child's interests - Children who have a range of interests will be exposed to different opportunities. Combined with a good work-life balance, this will make the less-interesting tasks they face less demoralizing and easier to face.
Celebrate your child's achievements - Knowing how to celebrate and enjoy success, both their own and others’, will give your child something positive to aim for.
Groom your child to success - Give your child the opportunity to be successful and experience the positive emotions that go with it. Supporting and guiding them will help build the self-esteem that is vital to self-motivation.
Foster your child's interests - Encouraging a child to learn about things that interest them will allow them to better understand the concepts they learn at school, especially if you’re creative about the way you link their interest to learning. Pacing out the length of their favorite dinosaur or measuring ingredients for baking will help them understand size or volume without it feeling like another math lesson.
Parenting a teenager entails great responsibility – and it is never easy. As your adolescent goes through physical transformation, his mind changes significantly, too. Bad habits, mood swings, preference modification and rebellion are things that can happen and test your understanding, patience and parenting skills. Nevertheless you must help your child go through adolescence as smoothly as possible (despite its challenges), so below are some smart ways to tackle the teenage problems you might encounter:
Cyber space addiction - Most teenagers today have smartphones and they go online on a daily basis to play games, watch videos and communicate with their friends. There is nothing wrong with these things but teenagers tend to forget their limitations. They are online almost 24/7, sacrificing sleep and physical activities, just to stay updated. Monitor your child’s online activity and set rules on his phone and internet use and implement them strictly. You can keep him from sleep deprivation, cyber bullying and other online predators if you monitor his internet use.
Depression – Depression is one of the worst teenage problems as it can lead to death. It springs from poor self-esteem and distorted body image beliefs. Making your child feel accepted is the first step to keeping him from the claws of depression. Listen to him and comfort him when needed because the validation of his thoughts and feelings can lead to increased self-esteem which reduces the chances of depression.
Juvenile crimes – Most teenagers will try to commit petty crimes if they think they have a good chance of eluding the consequences. They may try everything from assault, to illegal purchases and larceny.
When parents are aware of these problems they can guide their teenagers toward living a more confident and meaningful life. Instead of criticizing or judging your child, make an effort to understand him and build a strong relationship him so he doesn’t have to turn to the negative influence of peers or other destructive things to feel accepted and validated in life.
Fatherhood can really put a strain on your finances. To begin with, there is an additional mouth to feed. Nursery furniture, nappies, toys, safety devices, baby clothes, medical expenses.
The future does not look too bright on the financial front either, when you consider things like school fees, pocket money and the inexhaustible list of expenses which children create. Here some
ways by which you work your way through the financial challenges of fatherhood.
1. Check Through Your Subscriptions - You might still be subscribed to a bunch of services you no longer use. Do some house-cleaning and cancel all those which were frivolous or not being used. This alone can saved you about $100 per month.
2. Check Your Service Providers - Do you have services such as telephone, internet or pay TV that are out of contract? If so, do some shopping. Look for a better deal. You will probably find an offer out there that will give you more for less.
3. Check Your Debts - This is a tough one, many people find it difficult to manage debt. Review your debt portfolio, do you have debt from many sources? This includes credit cards. Eliminate if possible. Look at the smallest debt. Can you completely pay it off without too much hardship? If so, do it. Then look at the next smallest one and repeat. The problem with multiple debts is they all have their minimum payment requirements. If you can eliminate your small ones, you can quickly free up cash (by removing these minimum payments) which can be used for family.
Then, look at your cheapest debt. (the one with the lowest interest rate) Can you approach the provider and ask them to take more of your business, by buying out your other debts. If so, do it. This will give you two benefits. By consolidating many small debts into one large debt, you will reduce your minimum monthly payments, freeing up cash for family. If you do it in a way that reduces your average (across your debts) interest rate, you will save money over the life of the debts.
4. Use eBay Where Possible - You do not have to buy new baby things all the time. Babies grow so fast, they rarely wear anything out, be it toys, clothes or furniture. There is a massive market for second hand baby gear on eBay. You will save a fortune.
There is a common adage that says "respect must be earned." But how can a child earn respect if they do not understand what it is? Respect is not an innate characteristic of a small child. As
their parents, you play the most important role in teaching them what respect means.
Respect your child’s personal space. Children have different needs when it comes to personal space. Learn to respect what each child feels comfortable with. One of my grandchildren has long hair. She has told me that she doesn’t like me to rearrange her hair or put it behind her back. I now know not to touch her hair. Boys may not appreciate your always tucking in their shirt and feel it as an invasion of their physical privacy.
Make them feel comfortable around you. If a child is always bombarded with searching questions when they return from school, they may put up block and not want to share. Instead, welcome them home and give them a chance to talk about their day. Let them know you miss them when they are away and are happy to see them. Treating them with love and respect will be the best foundation for them to know they are in a safe environment.
Avoid constant ordering, correcting or directing. Invite children to help you rather than demanding that they do. Let them decide when is the best time to do their homework. Set boundaries and let them work within them. Children often rebel and push parents to the limits when they are forced to do things. Respect their time, limits and wishes as long as they are reasonable. Show appreciation for any help a child gives
Build them up. So many things can affect a child’s self esteem. The way you treat your child should not tear them down. Encouraging words can influence how their day goes despite how their friends and others treat them. They need to know that you have their back and that they have a safe refuge from the world. Pray with and for them and and send them off with a smile. Children who feel good about themselves are more likely to give respect to others.
Compare them only to themselves. A child who is always compared to siblings, cousins or parents will always feel inadequate. By treating them as an individual and being non-judgemental will have better results. Each child is so unique and has their own set of talents and attributes. I have a grandchild who has special needs. She has very good self esteem despite her disability. Her parents treat each of their children with respect and love.
Give up the need for power and control. Power struggles rarely bode well in families. Daily conflicts with children create disrespect. You are a steward over your children. Mutual respect between parents, spouses and children can solve daily challenges. Show your children respect and they will respect you. All humans desire respect and thrive with it.
Even as we encourage our kids to use their devices for good like homework, making things or learning stuff, we still butt heads over safety, screen time, age-appropriate content, and the importance of making eye contact instead of staring at your screen when a human being is talking to you.
2018 can be the year you do things differently. Learning to live in harmony with media and tech -- in a way that works for your family -- is one of the most forward-thinking actions you can take
as a parent raising kids in the digital age. Who knows? One of these may be the start of a new family tradition.
Deal with the one thing that's most frustrating about your kid's media/tech. What didn't work in 2017? Do you need better rules or limits? Do you need to make a space for charging phones outside the bedroom at night? Do you need to stop watching TV before school? Do you need your kid to be better about responding to your texts? Check out the American Academy of Pediatrics' Family Media Use Plan worksheets to identify problem areas and solve them. Make a New Year's resolution to fix a nagging issue that's causing friction between you and your kid.
Lead by example by putting down your phone at a certain time every evening. Make an announcement when you shut down your devices. Your kids may roll their eyes, but it sends a strong message that you can set boundaries -- and stick to them.
Put a new spin on the device-free dinner. If you're already designating a night or nights as device-free, give yourself a pat on the back. How about taking it a step further and doing something that inspires closeness and conversation with kids? Some ideas: Pick a word of the day, play "two truths and a lie," or talk about what you'd do if you won the lottery. Leave school, work, and chores to discuss after dinner.
Start a book club. It's so important to keep your kids reading. Strong readers do well in all school subjects. They also learn to focus for extended periods, a necessary skill in the world of bite-sized information. And reading together gives you a chance to discuss plot, characters, and themes that can apply to all aspects of life. There's no shortage of book recommendations. You can get into a book series, whether you have little kids, tweens, or teens. Or you can introduce your kids to the great classics of English literature. Focus on one topic -- for example, "What did you like best about the book?" Then use the conversation starters from our book reviews or look for discussion guides in the back of the book or online.
Saying 'I love you' to your wife and kids all the time doesn't make you a good father. You must remember that actions speak louder than words. Therefore, you must be intentional in showing your love for your family. How? Here are some tips that will help you do just that.
Love your wife unconditionally – Kids feel loved and secure when they know that you love their mom without reservations. If you're divorced, treat your children's mom with respect even though it's not reciprocated.
Love them no matter what – This is different from permissiveness. Love your kids unconditionally despite their shortcomings. Kids who are secure in their father’s love behave properly compared to other kids.
Be there for your children – Make time for your children no matter how busy you are. And make every second you spend with them count – make memories with them.
Discipline with love – Children appreciate a love-drenched discipline. Be clear with your rules and be consistent in carrying out disciplinary actions accompanied with explanations.
Value education – Don’t just fuss about grades; get involved in accomplishing your children's homework and projects. Be a hands-on advocate of learning.
Teach your kids to take responsibility – Loving fathers make sure their children know how to be accountable for every action they make. They teach their kids to clean up if they get involved in a mess and move forward.
Teach your kids to love life – If we learn how to love this life and then give that blessing to our kids, they will be well prepared for satisfaction. Kids learn from us dads after all.
A man ought to perform different roles in order to have a successful marriage and family life. He must be a good leader and teacher apart from providing for and protecting family from harm.
As a provider - While being a good provider means having the ability to support a family financially, it involves other factors that contribute to the well-being of each family member. A man should be able to provide for the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental needs of his family.
As a protector - More than beating up anyone who insults your wife or daughter, this role means protecting her self-esteem and self-worth as well as your daughters'. Actually, you will need to do the same for your sons too. It can also mean protecting your way of life and guarding against any threats to the things that are valuable to your family.
As a leader - A man must take the lead in solving the problems the family is currently facing. As the head of the family, you must never whine about your family's situation. You must create a plan to lead your family towards the right direction. And in everything you do, you must give your best efforts.
As a teacher - What is your behavior teaching to your kids? Values are caught not taught. This means everything you say and do or don't say or don't do is observed and picked up by your children. Be a role model for your children, loved ones and community with your words and deeds. Set high standards against yourself.
Coming up with a unique fundraiser for your school can be difficult, especially
with so many other schools holding fundraisers, too. You need not lose hope! Why? Because you can turn an ordinary fundraiser into a special activity by simply adding a little bit of fun and
relevance into every part of it. Here are four fundraising ideas and tips to make your event stand out:
1. Art Exhibition – Putting on an art exhibition is one of the easiest, yet most overlooked ways through which schools can raise funds. Replicating the atmosphere of a ‘real’ art exhibition will not just showcase the best student drawings, paintings, sculptures and other creations, but give the fundraiser a sense of prestige. Make your school's art exhibition distinctive by presenting by grade level and theme. Don't restrict the display to only drawings and paintings either. Include crafts, needlework, poetry and other creative writing masterpieces of your students. Lastly, use fun ideas like creating a gallery program, highlighting some pieces with feature lighting, and playing soft music to create that real exhibition feeling.
2. Fun Run – Even though a race involves a competition, making it unique means injecting it with lots of fun! One example of this is getting participants to throw colour bombs or colour balloons at each other while racing to the finish line. Students and adults must wear white shirts so it shows the full extent of how much colour they got splattered with by the end of the race. This outdoor activity provides a great opportunity for students and their families to laugh, compete and bond while raising funds for your school. Watch the video below to see another variation of a fun run.
3. Car Wash – This idea has been done quite a few times, but why not make it more interactive for the students and car owners? Like having a canteen or lemonade stand? With this
you’ll raise extra money with car owners purchasing refreshments while they wait. Or how about getting students to make an initial smiley face from the suds on the car’s bonnet for a bit of fun?
Or while washing, how about getting the students to sing the school anthem? Most school grounds, or a central location in your community, will suit a car wash fundraiser. Don’t forget to bring
hose pipes, buckets, clean rags, soft cloth for polishing and car shampoo. And ensure someone plays some upbeat music to entertain your volunteers, supporters and other participants.
4. Recycling – This isn’t just a different method to raise money, but gives students the opportunity to campaign for a greener planet. Private residences and businesses will often have old mobile phones and empty ink cartridges laying around – soon to be tossed into a waste bin. So why not organise for students to collect these items, which can then be sold to recycle companies and scrap shops. Even broken pieces of gold and silver jewellery can be collected and sold as scrap metal. Make ‘saving the environment’ fun, too! Keep track of how many phones and cartridges are collected and recycled – then provide a reward for top collectors and let the school know how many pieces were saved from the landfill.
Don’t forget, whilst these unique and fun school fundraisers are primarily meant to benefit the student body; parents, business owners, political leaders and other members of the community should be encouraged to get involved. This enables you to not only achieve fundraising your goals in less time, but spreads the fun and positive message even further.
Children should be taught at an early age how to manage their money. An allowance is a good way to teach them responsibility as long as you are using it as a learning tool and not paying them for doing jobs they should already be doing as part of a family. As children get older, they can be paid for doing extra chores so they are better prepared for future employment and will understand the concept of being paid for doing a good job.
Save a lot - Open a bank account for something important in the future like school, a car, a home. Put some in a piggy bank for something they want in the near
future like a special item, trip or event.
Spend some - This is for things they want or need right now like snacks, clothes, fun stuff. When you take your child to a store, they can use some of their own money to buy small items so they aren't expecting you to come up with the money and they will appreciate their stuff more.
Give some - Have your child donate some money to a worthy cause or put in offering at church. This teaches them the value of helping others. Talk to your kids about credit cards and how damaging they can be if used irresponsibly. Be a good example when using your own credit cards and try to pay with cash or debit.
Helping children manage their money by making confident choices will help them build their esteem and they will have a much better chance at becoming a financially responsible adult.
Parents often hope that their children will learn and build strength or character from setbacks in life, but it may not be as simple if they have low self-esteem. After all junior high and high school is often filled with social rejection and ever-changing relationships among friends and others. If we stop to think on this for a bit, we find that being harassed by someone who is looking for conflict is one of the most uncomfortable things we can experience in school. Here are three steps parents can take in helping their pre-teens and teens to develop confidence and the resilience to overcome bullying.
Measuring Up. Often our self-esteem is shaped in part due to messages we grow up with. Parents who reflect on their child's upbringing may uncover some potential factors such as how parenting, family relationships, and cultural values and beliefs may have shaped their self-esteem. When children don't feel like they measure up to what is expected of them by themselves or others, it results in their adopting a negative perception of themselves from not being what they think they need or should be. Raising awareness of this can help pre-teens and teens begin to determine and distinguish what and how they value and measure their self-worth. It's important for parents to be mindful how they react, and try not overreact when their teen doesn't meet certain expectations, such as grade slipping. Many teens interpret their parent's reaction of disappointment as rejection. Parents sadly realize that their reaction to poor grades have been interpreted as: "you will only accept me if I get good grades in school".
Nowadays, kids tend to be addicted to playing video games, watching their favorite shows or surfing the net for hours. Because of this, they fail to be active and productive. A lot of time is wasted; and, their lives are wasted.
Engage them. Although many children dislike doing chores it is a good way to keep them distracted and help parents around the house. Also, doing chores will give them a sense of responsibility and keep them away from trouble and things they shouldn't be doing.
Have a compulsory play time. Kids joining a sport they enjoy is a great way to meet new people and get a good deal of exercise. It was teach kids a valuable lesson on how to be a team player and cooperate with other kids in a mannerly fashion.
Walk with them. If you have to grab something from a store nearby don't always take the car. Grab your kids and take them with you for a walk to the store. That is a great way to promote some movement in your kids if they don't do much. Alternatively, bribe them, if they want ice cream, they have to walk there and get it.
Feed them with healthy snacks. Eating healthy is very important, it can prevent many future diseases and injuries. Don't allow you kids to eat chips, candy, ice cream, etc. all day. Limit them to a limited serving at a certain time once in a while, every day is not good. Also, try mixing it up! Mix up variety of fruits in the mixer and add a scoop of ice cream in it, Or give them celery with melted chocolate, apples with peanut butter. There are so many options; you just have to take the time to find them.
Positive self-esteem is fundamental to a child's emotional and psychological well-being. It significantly affects their ability to form meaningful relationships, and how successful they are academically and, ultimately, in their chosen career.
Be consistent. Children thrive on stability and predictability. It allows them to feel safe and secure. Children also need firm boundaries, so they have a clear understanding of what they can and can't do. It's really important to ensure that you are consistent in enforcing those boundaries. Otherwise, children receive mixed messages, and this makes them feel uncertain and insecure.
Focus on the behavior and not on your child. Avoid labelling your child "good" or "bad", and focus instead on the behaviour that is in issue. If a child is regularly told that they are "naughty" or "bad", then they are likely to start behaving in accordance with that label. Conversely, labelling a child "good" is unlikely to produce the intended result, because the label is neither specific nor measurable (more on this below). Instead, focus on describing the behaviour, not the child. Be specific about what it is you are encouraging, or wishing to deter. It is also helpful to reassure your child that, irrespective of their behaviour, you will always love them unconditionally.
Treat your child with respect. The best way to encourage your child to treat their parents, and others, with respect, is for you to model that behaviour in your dealings with them. A child who is treated with respect is more likely to be respectful to others.
Validate your child's feelings and emotions. Children can become distraught about things that seem incredibly insignificant to us as adults. Nevertheless, it's important that we acknowledge the validity of our children's emotions, and provide them with comfort, reassurance, and guidance as to how to manage their "big feelings". This is essential if children are to ultimately learn how to self-regulate their own emotions.
Give your Child a Choice. Wherever possible, give your child a choice rather than dictating what they must do. This is far more empowering for a child, and affords them with a sense of responsibility for the decisions that they make, and their outcomes.
Raising children in today's society is no easy. With the technology available in this day and age, many children grow accustomed to elaborate and expensive sources of entertainment. But it doesn't have to be this way.
Search for discounts. Couponing used to be a way to save money on groceries for the frugal household. Today, though, many companies are offering discounts online and in stores.
Video arcades, entertainment centers, aquariums and zoos are just a few examples of local attractions that offer deals and discounts. Check online discount sites regularly for any deals that may
Join a local playgroup. The internet has done wonders for connecting many different people, including those who would not normally meet. Many towns and cities host local parent groups that offer weekly or monthly meet-ups for parents and their children. Often, these groups meet in local parks playgrounds or child friendly restaurants, giving the parents a chance to socialize with adults, and the children the opportunity to meet other kids their age. Plus, the bigger the group, the better the chance of receiving a discount on children's entertainment. Children love playing and what better resource than other moms and dads who know the area.
Purchase season passes. Individual tickets/admission prices can really start to add up when a family visits an attraction multiple times a month or even year. If you find yourself taking your children to the same parks, pools, or events, consider purchasing a season pass. Many season passes allow an entire family to attend an event, and the price you would normally pay for each individual at each visit quickly surpasses the price of the season pass. Check online and via telephone for season passes to the places you and your children love.
Volunteer. Children do not always need expensive gadgets and luxurious vacations to stay entertained. Instead, look to doing some good in your neighborhood while having fun with your children. Animal shelters and local parks and beaches are always looking for volunteers. Just make sure you call ahead to see if the organization welcomes children as volunteers. You will not only enjoy the time spent with your child, but you will be making a positive impact on your child. Who said children's entertainment must always involve spending money?
Check for rewards programs. Many families have a favorite spot for child-friendly entertainment. Much like a season pass, many of these businesses offer a loyalty & rewards program for faithful patrons. Always inquire as to the availability of such programs at your next visit. Examples of such rewards programs include stamping a card for every visit or purchase. After so many visits or purchases, the card may be redeemed for a free visit. The idea is to reward a customer and his family for their loyalty.
Reading comprehension is made up of a three-step process, each one leading to the other. The first step is being able to identify the facts and ideas in the things that we read. After recognizing ideas and facts, the second step is understanding them. The third step is critical thinking. Despite the word "critical," critical thinking doesn't mean the ability to point out flaws or mistakes. What it really means is the ability to assess the ideas being presented, whether they are reasonable or not.
Staying positive is really hard if you're surrounded with negative happenings and negative people everyday. All of your energy could be drained and your focus misaligned if you keep encountering people who always complain and talk negatively about themselves and about their lives. Do you find yourself in the same dilemma? Here are some things you can do to stay positive all through out the year or for the rest of your life.
Know that life is a series of choices and not chances. You always have a choice in everything that comes your way. Choose what not to listen, where not to go and what to do in order to keep your positivity and focus. If you want to get full pay and buy all the things you need, choose to go to work and do your best to complete your tasks. List down the things you want and you will benefit from. Then, take note of the choices you have to make in order to acquire them.
Claim the position where you want to be and gain control over yourself. You cannot control other people but you can control your behavior, feelings and thoughts. You can
decide what to feel and what to do for the entire day. So, you must tell yourself and believe that you will achieve great things as soon as you wake up in the morning. It's like setting up
yourself for success.
Be aware of things that can pull you into negativity. Is it your fears or your past? Is it a person you dislike? Whatever it is, decide not to discuss it unless you're ready to talk about it or say something about it that feels good. For example, stay away from arguments or people who complain a lot because you need not hear them.
Drum a power phrase into your head. This is like a mantra that you recite to yourself over and over so that you can stay focused, overcome negativity and deliver positive results. No one else can push you to stay positive but yourself.
Be ready for the release. Are there tasks or people who challenge your positive outlook in life? Decide to release them. They can drain you and pull you down when you're caught off guard. Accept that nothing and no one stays forever. Choose to release those that won't help you have an improved life.